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Listening to Wayne Dwyer’s discussion of the Tao Te Ching, I receive the reminder to live without fighting, choosing to cooperate with apparent opposition. In his explanation and discussion of the 68th verse, Wayne suggests that we apply the principles outlined to all forms of contest, including that with illness. Instead of fighting the illness, he suggests that we speak to the “faulty” cells in our bodies, asking them to move on if they are unable to live with us in harmony and health.
Paraphrasing Mr Dwyer, my partner, SynJyn, offers this in the business context: “If you insist on doing business with me (us), I ask you to do so in harmony, with respect and offering fair and timeous payment; should you not be able to do this, I invite you to take your business elsewhere.”
I am conscious of the many times that I have engaged, in a business context, in situations that are unhealthy. I work long hours, compromising my health and setting aside all other pursuits and interests; incur expenditure in the completion of the projects; and then find that my client is unable, or unwilling, to pay me as agreed. The financial repercussions have been severe and cumulative.
What arises for me out of this is an enquiry into my own relationship with money, which in turn arise from the root principles or truths that govern my life. I begin with the acceptance of what is, to me, a simple reality: I have basic needs, in my earthly incarnation, for a place to stay, food, clothing and material goods. In providing for myself, I offer goods and services to others for which I receive a financial exchange. When I ask others for goods and services, I must, in turn, proffer the financial exchange that they request.
So it is, that when I enter into a business relationship, I wish for a transparency and a genuine intent by all parties to keep their agreements. If I am providing the service, I undertake to do this at the highest level possible, with integrity and in truth, asking for what I consider a fair exchange in return. I also ask that the vibration of the relationship is maintained at the highest level possible, with all involved communicating in a clear, cordial and respectful manner. Then, of course, the transaction is concluded once I have delivered the goods and/or services, and I am paid in accordance with our agreements.
I am well aware that there are many reasons why the very last part of the agreement, i.e. timeous payment, is not kept. Sometimes the purchaser may have every good intention of paying, be willing to pay and even be distressed by their inability to pay, but be in a position where the funds are simply not available. My questions around this are: Did you know that you did not have the money? Did you have the money but spent it on something else? Did you order more than you could pay for? Were you reckless in purchasing something from me, and perhaps from others at the same time, for which you did not have the funds?
I had an experience recently where a client, after receiving the goods and services, told me that he “was not able to get a loan from the bank…” Months have passed and I have resorted to litigation in an attempt to get paid. My client ordered goods and services from me (and several others) knowing that he would not be able to meet his obligations to pay our invoices on completion of the job. Over and above this, he did not know when, or even if, he would be in a position to meet his obligations. So, without my permission, he took my time, expertise and energy. Along with this he took my peace of mind and my connection with bliss.
After a restless night during which my half asleep mind was full of the injustices meted out to me and my business partner, finally waking with dreams of theft and addiction, I rose feeling unhappy and tired. The discord of this particular situation resonates with that of similar past situations that I was not able to resolve satisfactorily – the cumulative effect of which leaves me exactly where I am right now.
What do I do?
I cease to struggle. I cannot compel another to meet their obligations, or even to see the truth of what those are. I can, however, look at those areas in my life where I have incurred financial obligations and ensure that I do my utmost to settle them in a fair and just manner. As my relationship with money becomes healthier I am clear about the terms of exchange, choosing to do business with people who are equally open and transparent in their dealings. As I let go of guilt and shame around asking for and receiving money, it is easy to set a fair price for my goods and services – and then stick to this. Conversely I am careful of how I spend money, examining my motivation for each purchase, and then paying for it with an open and glad heart.
Then, perhaps, the vibration that I create will surround me in such a way that all of my transactions will be harmonious and serving the good of all parties.
As I write this, I feel the peace of the Tao enter my being.
I choose, today, to live in harmony with myself and the Multiverse.